

Regardless of how far we think our society has come in overcoming sexual discrimination, massage therapy professionals know otherwise. Not only are men a clear minority in this business, they also may have a harder time booking legitimate bodywork appointments. This inequity between the sexes may discourage some males from pursuing a livelihood in massage therapy. However, those with drive can take several steps to prevail over the public’s gender bias and enjoy a successful, rewarding career.
The Blazing Disproportion
According to The American Association of Massage Therapy, over 80 percent of massage therapists are female. Even though this statistic may create the illusion that male massage therapists are in higher demand, many people prefer receiving treatment from female bodyworkers. Whether a therapist is hoping to find employment or attract new clientele, these facts point to discrimination against male bodyworkers.
Undeniably, day spas, destination spas and resort spas typically experience a majority of their clients preferring female practitioners. Upon booking an appointment within the burgeoning spa industry, potential clients are usually asked if they would prefer a male or female massage therapist. Although some may argue that this practice initiates potential discrimination, choosing gender can optimize client comfort – and thus encourage repeat business. The good news is that the more consumers are educated about massage therapy, the more they support gender neutrality. Experts believe this trend is due to the abundance of press educating the public about bodywork’s value as a therapeutic modality.
Preference for Females
While frequent spa-goers recognize that the importance of a practitioner’s skill supersedes a practitioner’s gender, those newer to receiving bodywork tend to prefer female therapists for many reasons. Although not based in logic or fact, the following causes of gender preference are rooted in the psychological web of our popular culture:
- Feeling Safe – People typically feel vulnerable after they disrobe and may believe that a female will be less threatening.
- Judgment – As the most likely sex to seek massage therapy, a woman’s insecurity about her body may harbor fears that a male therapist might judge her physical appearance.
- Sexuality – A result of sex industry ventures masquerading as massage services, many people worry that a massage may be sexualized. This misconception represents a constant battle for massage therapy professionals.
- Homophobia – For men who are uncomfortable with intimacy within their own gender, men may avoid being massaged by men because of their own homophobia. Combined with this fear, the possibility of getting a spontaneous erection during a session with a man may fuel their preference for a female therapist.
- Nurturing – Likely due to their traditional roles in child-rearing, many people assume women to be superior nurturers to men. Individuals who are dealing with emotional issues such as violation, depression or loneliness, are prone to choosing a practitioner most likely to nurture them.
Success Despite These Fears
Although overcoming these misconceptions about men presents an additional hurdle for male therapists, the rewards are well worth it. Some of the most successful and well-known massage therapists in the industry are men who persevered despite the gender bias. Simply being aware of the reasons people might choose a female bodyworker can inspire a creative practitioner to dissipate such preconceived notions. Several approaches that have paid off for male bodyworkers include:
- Stressing Medical Massage – Alternative healthcare practitioners are aware that decades of research demonstrate the clear physical benefits of relaxation practices. However, emphasizing bodywork within a medical framework may attract clients with a specific therapeutic goal instead of those seeking nurturing or relaxation only.
- Stellar Boundary Definition – By communicating extremely clear professional boundaries prior to a session, male bodyworkers can dispel any ambiguity or misconceptions regarding the sexualization of a massage treatment. According to Art Riggs, certified massage therapist and advanced certified Rolfer with over 15 years of teaching experience, “It’s especially important for men to establish boundaries when working with clients because it’s easier for a man to be subject to accusations of sexual harassment, or perceived sexual advances, than a woman. For this reason, men must be particularly careful when working on clients, especially female clients, so as not to be misinterpreted.”
- Educate Spas on Advertising Skills – When marketing yourself, emphasize your skills instead of gender to help potential clients focus on what is important. If working in the spa industry and someone else is booking your appointments, educate the reception staff about this distinction. Ask that potential new clients be informed of the modalities you excel in and the conditions you are most recruited for before discussing gender preference.
Although the scale of gender preference for massage therapists clearly tips toward women, men can still achieve a successful and rewarding career within this industry. Once the psychology behind client requests for female bodyworkers is understood, men can step forward to create change. By focusing on a medical massage model, setting and abiding by the most stringent professional boundaries and educating those around them about their strengths as a bodyworker, dedicated male massage therapists can end this gender bias.
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As a male therapist, I have come across all of these reasons, including one where a female has a male therapist in their home state, but prefers females while traveling because of the various reasons listed. Sometimes females pick females due to husbands and boyfriends not wanting them to see other males, even when they prefer males. I have had female clients see me behind their significant others backs because they didn’t care for females. I too often find that once a female somehow sees a male, a majority of them either switch permanently to males, or lean a little more towards males, granted they give at least a good massage of course. I have won over many female clients. I also notice that there seems to be far less complaints about males over females too. Gyms are a better source for males to do better as the thinking goes that as people work out and gain more muscle, a male will more likely be stronger to give a deeper pressure massage. I can personally say I have converted a lot of women to trying other males in the future when they are not specifically requesting me. The good thing of course is females tend to talk more to their other female friends so recommendations can come fast and furious once you gain their trust and business.
Also most Hotels, Resorts, and greater Spa companies use the services provide by the “Customer Experience Management companies and their guidelines say that the gender question should be asked upfront by the receptionists . The reason for such question is because they want the client to have full satisfaction on their services . The problem is that we live in such oversexulized society and questions like these don’t make anyone a favor and only add to more prejudice. The businesses that obtain greater satisfaction overall numbers might also use it to “conquer” more investors or increase their money value in any stock exchange.
I’ve never had a problem being as busy as I would like..I’m a male clinical therapist who has been fortunate enough to know my own value as a heath-care and healing professional, therfore, I believe without trying, my words, skilled touch and actions, powerfully radiate the essence of the profession at it’s best– which to me is about aiding others in a way that truly opens their mind, bodies, hearts and spirit. Just believe in your gifts, goals and vision. EVen though I appreciate this article, there massage magazines are the worst culprits of using too many female models in their massage advertisements, it is changing, thankfully. Don’t believe any fear thoughts about your gender getting in the way, and it won’t. Trust yourself and the process of life. And even though this is a good article, don’t let it scare you..go forward man! The world needs grounded, open-hearted men. We are out here!! And yes, many clients of mine are men. Decide that you only want men and women who are secure in their sexuality, or at least healthily working on it, and those people will show up in your practice.
As a male massage therapist going through the spa environment and now in my own office, I have long held the stance that the last thing female clients want are sexual advances or innuendos so I make it very clear that I am never throwing out that kind of impression. My current clientele is 94% female (yes, I bother to do the math and have stats on all sorts of trivial aspects of my practice). I have created a section of my health history/intake form that quotes the law for my state that specifies what is appropriate for massage and what is not. Then I offer several methods for draping and a clear description of areas of the body that they are comfortable with for massage and encourage them to ask questions if needed (I have pictures to go with this, again for clarity). I have had clients from all over the world and with wildly different attitudes about their body image, so I found this no-nonsense discussion approach works well for me. The majority of my work is for spot specific deep tissue with full body relaxation (de-stressing). The muscle imbalance of shoulder girdle (anterior vs posterior) is probably the biggest issue with so many desk jobs. This leads frequently to work into the chest muscles (anterior, posterior and sides of torso) to effectively release the muscle tensions from that work posture. Communicating clear intent is important for the client’s trust and relaxation to allow the work needed.
Another issue that male therapists can excel at is the emotional/psychological component for opposite gender clientele. Since touch is, at its core, the most basic form of communication, there is a base need that men like to be “taken care of” by a woman and women like to be “taken care of” by a man. So if you are a male therapist that can communicate your intentions for the betterment of a female client’s wellness (whether they’re wanting relaxation, injury rehab, release and relief from chronic positional issues, etc) all with your ego and any sexual overtones removed, female clients will gravitate to your practice. (And another commenter touched on the ‘word-of-mouth’ factor of women, so your reputation can grow quickly in either a positive or negative direction based on how you handle these interactions)
This article just begins to discuss the issues that a male therapist needs to be aware of and should be addressed in their education. Because men can excel at being single-minded and task/result focused, any man who is fascinated by both the science and the art that is massage, should be able to make a good career as a massage therapist if they address these hurdles.
I’m a male therapist of 19 years and am questioning why an article like this is even written by a female acupuncturist?
I agree with you. :o)
I also am incensed that someone would term preferring one gender over another discriminatory. I have both male and female therapists in my office. Ironically enough, I have to educate people who do not know better that males do not do “deeper massage” than females, simply because of their gender.
As a female, I never had a choice when I went to see a gynecologist in years past, and now that I do have a choice I always choose a female doctor. Am I being discriminatory or simply choosing someone I feel more comfortable with and with whom I can better relate?
I almost always prefer a female massage therapist as well. Simply because I relate better to females than to males and having a good relationship with your therapist is a base priority in my opinion. Females also think more like I do and can relate better (in general) to my female thoughts and issues.
Some people tell me they prefer a female because they have been abused in the past by males. Regardless of the reason that someone prefers a specific gender, it should NEVER be termed discrimination. It is a boundary issue at best and we are taught in the best of massage schools to respect boundaries. So quit trying to be politically correct. I prefer female hairdressers as well but again that is not discriminating; it is how I best relate.
Would love to hear others’ views on this subject.
To actually say “Is a male therapist ok?” is truly discriminatory. When was the last time someone asked you if a male nurse or dental tech was acceptable? As an HR trained, licensed massage therapist spa director I recognize and honor people’s choices and educate them when appropriate.
We state ” you apt will be with Tom, he’s one of our finest” that way the guest hears the name and has an opportunity to voice a request. If they state a female preference, I gently suggest Tom’s modalties and years of experience would be ideal for their goals and this works more than half the time. Having faith in your staff and knowing their strengths helps when dealing with uneducated discrimination. If they still voice their preference we honor it, as there most likely is a reason at this point, not merely choosing a gender blindly.
As a male therapist I can say for certain there is discrimination, I have been working full time for the last 12 years as a therapist and have seen what being a female in this business get you. It took me about 2 years to build my book and keep it that way, if a female isn’t even great at massages but better at hospitality comes in that person will be fully booked from start to finish, knowing full well that her skills are no match to the other seasoned therapist. No matter how good you are as a guy it is tough. Also knowing how tough it is for guys to gets clients they will work a thousand times harder to keep them then the girl who gets booked all the time with new clients
I second Scott on what he experienced.
Just last night I was explaining the same thing to one of my male clients. The one time I worked for a massage clinic, I spent numerous idle hours waiting for a client while the rest of the crew (female therapists) was busy working. What I waste of time! After that experience, I swore to myself that I would never work for a clinic again. I’ve been on my own ever since.
Of course it’s discrimination, but one that you have the right to do as a client.
As a first year male therapist who does not desire to work in a gym or chiropractor office, the decision has forced me to deal with the male therapist bias. Regardless of the reason, I have not had the success to continue my goals of a full time LMT business. Knowing I need two years to develop a clientele, My mortgage must still be paid and the lights must remain on. I had someone say I need to work through it and ask m how bad I want it? That is such an unfair statement. Regardless of how bad I want to remain in the business, the market when I entered was the worst the country has seen in a while for many businesses. Lacking funding forces many businesses to change plans or go bankrupt. My plans are to get another job, keep the license, and pray that one day, I can go back to pursuing full time LMT status.
As my gender is in fact male l have been disturbed by the complication of this mater.This is what we consider a manual medicine in other terms alternative medicine witch perhaps brought us to this perfesion in the first place, to heal without the assistance of pharmaceutical drugs, to heal with the assurance of the hands and to assist patients with researched treatment. herdals must be jump to attain a goal. Assure your craft. (A soon to be mmt)jrh